Although you feel utterly devastated by what she has done to you and wish to tell everyone, including her family, about it, there’s a part of your heart that does not want to speak to anyone else.

While you want to let everyone know how she betrayed you but don’t wish for them to judge her or you, you do not want anyone to hate or dislike her.

You want to expose her, but you also want to protect her.

While you want to hate someone, at the same time, you love them.

You want to leave her, but you still love her & support her.

You must be experiencing a whirlwind of conflicting emotions and thoughts, creating a sense of chaos within. It’s like navigating through a maze of paradoxes about what to do. It can make you feel like you are going crazy when, in reality, your amygdala is going into hyperdrive. That is why it is so important to slow down and seek safety.

This paradox of conflict is called Dilemma of Discovery.