What to DO-

When the initial shock hits, it can be hard to think clearly. Prioritizing these steps will help you regain a sense of agency and safety:

• DO get a full STD screening: Your physical health is the priority. Regardless of what your partner says, getting tested ensures you have the medical facts.
• DO investigate your legal rights: Knowledge is power. Understanding your position regarding finances, property, or custody can provide stability during an uncertain time.
• DO get support for yourself: You don’t have to carry this alone. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can offer a non-judgmental ear.
• DO learn everything you can about infidelity: Understanding the mechanics of why this happens can sometimes help in de-personalizing the betrayal.
• DO trust your feelings and observations: Your intuition is a powerful tool. Don’t let anyone gaslight you into doubting what you know or feel to be true.
• Join your partner in therapy to foster understanding and collaboration. If both parties are willing to do the work, a professional setting is the safest place to explore if the relationship can be repaired.