Email: Info@thrivebeyondtraumacounseling.com
Call: (248) 392- 3733
Counselling
Counselling
Female Betrayal Trauma Therapy in Farmington Hills
Available in-person and virtually across Michigan.
It shifts Neurologically
- Panic
- Numbness
- Intrusive thoughts
- Body symptoms
- A sense that you don’t recognize yourself anymore
You are responding to a sudden collapse of emotional safety.
This page is for women experiencing partner betrayal trauma.
Whether you are:
Staying
Leaving
Don’t know yet.
*Your symptoms are trauma responses to the loss of emotional safety.*
Partner betrayal trauma occurs when an attachment bond is violated through:
- Infidelity
- Emotional affairs
- Pornography or sex addiction
- Hidden online activity
- Lying, secrecy, or gaslighting
- Double lives or intimacy rejection
This is not relationship conflict.
*Betrayal trauma destabilizes your internal world because safety was lost.*
Your Body’s Immediate Response
When betrayal is discovered; Your entire nervous system reacts
- Your heart race
- On edge all day
- Sick to your stomach
- Lose your appetite or stress eat
- Exhausted all the time
- Wake up at night and can’t fall back asleep
- Constant jaw, neck, or shoulder tension
- Headaches that won’t quit
- Shaky, sweaty, or chilled
- Numb or emotionally flat
- Foggy or disconnected
- Triggered by texts, silence, or certain places
*Your nervous system is responding to threat, not weakness.*
Discovery Shock
Discovery often triggers acute trauma responses:
- Freezing or collapse
- Shock and disbelief
- Inability to process information
This is survival physiology at work.
*Shock is your body protecting you.*
The Neuroscience Of Betrayal Trauma
Your brain is trying to protect you from further harm.
*Your body interprets betrayal as danger.*
- Panic
- Fear
- Rage
- Grief
- Numbness
- Nausea
- Insomnia
- Shaking
- Exhaustion
- Intrusive images
- Replaying conversations
- Dissociation
- Self-doubt, “Was I enough?”
- Confusion about who you are now
*You are not unstable — You are traumatized.*
The Dilemma of Discovery
You may feel both at the same time:
- Love and Rage
- Longing and Fear
- Desire for closeness and Inability to tolerate it
*Opposite emotions coexist after trauma.*
Your mind may have minimized red flags to preserve stability.
*Your system hid what was too painful to hold at the time.*
Minimization and denial erode trust in yourself.
*Gaslighting destabilizes identity and safety.*
Identity Collapse
Betrayal fractures:
- Self-trust
- Intuition
- Confidence
*Betrayal wounds identity, not intelligence.*
You may notice anxious, avoidant, or oscillating attachment reactions
*Attachment changes reflect trauma.*
Why Women Blame Themselves
*Self-blame is trauma logic, not reality.*
What Therapy Looks Like Here
Therapy focuses on:
- Stabilizing your nervous system
- Reducing panic and obsessive loops
- Restoring self-trust and grounding
- Trauma processing when you’re ready
- Clarity without pressure
- Repairing the nervous system impact
*Regulation comes before decisions.*
Our Approach
We offer trauma-informed care including:
- Betrayal trauma stabilization
- Attachment repair
- Identity rebuilding
- Somatic nervous-system work
- Boundary and decision support
- EMDR/Trauma work
*You don’t need answers to begin.*
No
Because trauma responses are neurological.
Yes — hypervigilance is common after betrayal.
*Your reactions are common and treatable.*
Support Is Available
If you’re reading this and thinking,
“This is me”, Let’s talk
You deserve steady and real support
You do not need the full story.
You do not need to know what to do yet.
You do not need to make any decisions today.
